You think you have a calm, rational handle on your emotions, and then they come spilling out uncontrollably. You are really good at thinking things out logically, and not "overreacting." Maybe you got the message early that tears are a sign of weakness, and strength is something that is important to you. You do NOT EVER want to appear weak. Your thoughts, your ability to be rational is a deep seated part of who you are, it has helped drive you and gotten you to where you ar

I don't know who I am. I can get along really well with anybody, fit in almost anywhere. I am a chameleon. I hear phrases like this from many of my clients struggling with a sense of who they are and asking why they feel so miserable when they are so good at fitting in with so many different people. Identity Identity forms in childhood and evolves throughout life. It changes and reacts to our experiences. But what happens when something stops that identity from fully formi